The Potentially Good, The Definitely Bad, and the Utterly Hopeless...

If you know your husband or boyfriend is a good man, then this book isn’t for you. But if you’re not so sure, Ditch That Jerk will help you assess whether your partner could be controlling or abusive—and whether he’ll ever change. Author Pamela Jayne writes in a direct, honest style, and uses real-life examples to show how the mind of an abusive man works and how to recognize the men she characterizes as potentially good, definitely bad or utterly hopeless. Her book includes descriptions, examples, warnings—and even “jerk tests.” Should you ditch him? Here are a few of the indicators:

The Potentially Good Man (has the capacity to change)

is likely to use non-physical forms of control and intimidation, such as verbal abuse
is usually employed and doesn’t change jobs a lot or get ﬁred regularly
does not usually have a serious alcohol or other drug problem

The Definitely Bad Man (is unlikely to change)

feels victimized by the world and blames everyone else for his problems
is moody, creates chaos around him, and may isolate himself and his family
may have a serious problem with alcohol or other drugs

The Utterly Hopeless Man (will never change—ditch him!)

behaves violently, including toward animals, and totally lacks feelings and empathy
is extremely dishonest, lying whenever it suits his purposes
is charming and highly manipulative—often claiming to have reformed

If you’re with a man who is controlling or hurtful—or you want to help a woman who is—Ditch That Jerk is for you. Sensible and straightforward, this book can help women make potentially lifesaving decisions about their relationships.

Pamela Jayne

Ditch That Jerk: Dealing with Men Who Control and Hurt Women